Have you ever felt like you are becoming your parents? Do you regret snapping at your kids, spouse, co-worker, or team? Do you wonder where these negative emotions come from and how it could be affecting you now and how it could affect your future?
Inappropriate emotional reactions, such as bursts of anger, periods of apathy, depression, sadness, anxiety, and chronic fear, are responsible for preventing people from achieving the quality of life they desire. Limiting decisions, such as “I’m not good enough,” “I’m not smart enough,” or “I don’t deserve it” create false limitations and prevent the ability to create reachable and attainable goals and outcomes.
We have built lifestyles that are totally different than those of our parents and ancestor, and yet there are still some automatic similarities in how we think, what we say, and what we do.
We all know that we inherit our physical traits from our parents through our genes. And now psychologists have acknowledged that even some of our personality characteristics are inherited as well. A 2012 study (Genetic Influences on Psychological Well-Being: A Nationally Representative Twin Study) of 800 sets of twins reported that genes play a greater role than home environment and surroundings in shaping key character traits such as self-control, decision making or sociability.
In a Nature Neuroscience study published in 2013, researchers trained mice to fear the smell of cherry blossoms. Then a team at the Emory University School of Medicine looked at what was happening inside the sperm. They found that a section of DNA responsible for their reaction to cherry blossom scent was more active in the mice’s sperm. Not only was the mice’s direct offspring “extremely sensitive” to cherry blossom, the next generation would avoid the scent as well, despite never having experienced it in their lives. Both generations also showed changes in brain structure. The report concluded that “The experiences of a parent, even before conceiving, markedly influence both structure and function in the nervous system of subsequent generations.”
In other words, we can also inherit our ancestors’ emotional baggage!
If your grandparent was traumatized by sexual assault, that trauma may still be in your genes. If your mother was in a car accident when she was 6 years old, you may have an odd fear of traffic or an unwarranted anger at drivers in the fast lane. You may feel suspicious around tall men or hate children with red hair all because of something that happened to someone in your family tree years ago!
Many of us are also dealing with tough life experiences such as divorce, career change, and health failure. How can we possibly be expected to deal with baggage that occurred before we were even born?!?
Mental and Emotional Release Technique (MER©) is a clinically researched, fast and incredibly powerful tool for releasing stress, anxiety and the negative emotions of fear, anger, hurt, sadness and guilt. MER has been utilized to overcome procrastination, phobias, limiting decisions and internal conflicts. MER can work wonders for healing emotions and painful thoughts getting in the way of your happiness and well-being. The memories you heal can be very recent or go back over 50 years or even generations.
This process blends elements of light trance, with the more cognitive aspects of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP). Combining this with NLP provides an innovative approach to understanding and directing human experience, communication and behavior. This powerful MER technique is becoming the method of choice to make fast, effective, long-term changes in behavior.
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